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Making Mansions Out of Molehills

Today’s blog post is brought to you by the letter, “M.” (I decided to have a little alliterative fun with my headers today…)

So what’s this about? Mental mansions?

This is a big one, but important. So sit tight.

I want to setup a picture of how we create our world and how we do so in large part by how we create our own mind, or our mental framework, over a lifetime.

Big talk, yes? Hence the joke on “mountains out of molehills.”

But follow me and you may see just how potent this idea is, and how apt the reference may be. To form your whole mindset on certain ideas really CAN make something bigger in your life.

In other words, whatever you focus on, you will actually live into more and more of it.

Think of your mind as the dwelling place of your consciousness. This may not be accurate form a holistic perspective, but from the framework of conscious thought it suffices.

If your mind were a home, then I would really imagine it as a mansion. Not in the sense of it being luxurious and expensive, but simply in how large and vast it is, how many rooms it contains.

Your mind contains a room for everything you have experienced in life, everything you have learned, all the relationships you’ve had, all the skills and interests you’ve put attention to. And the more time you build each room, the bigger it can become, the longer lived it can be, and the more attention it can get.

So you may have a room for childhood, or even different parts of your childhood. You may have a room for your favorite sport, for playing piano, for a business you own or work for. You may have a room for family, a room for each love relationship, even ones no longer in your life.

You may even have rooms that you haven’t visited in a long time, something you once did but let go of.

And each of these rooms you will decorate with the furnishings that suit it best.

Let’s say for that business you have some mental furniture for your workspace, the actual stuff you work with day to day, including your to-do list. You may have a picture of your boss hanging on the wall, or someone you are inspired by. You might even have a file cabinet of all the trouble you’ve had with that one coworker that gets under your skin. Add in a memorabilia pen from the conference you went to, whatever it is, you’ve put it in this “business” room of your mental mansion.

Be creative here in imagining it. It doesn’t have to be limited to one room per area of your life, nor does it have to be limited to “now.”

You could have a room for each “ex” you’ve had, each relationship you’ve been in that has carried with you ever since, in some way or other. Some lesson learned, some interests agreed on, some fights that will never quite be forgotten.

And what of your current relationship, if you have one? You could a have whole wing in your mansion for that. A room for the good times, a room for the dreams, a room for the travels, and even a room for the disagreements.

But as we fill our mental rooms with furnishings of our life experiences, as well as our thoughts and opinions of them, it can be helpful to remember to CLEAN them out sometimes.

Really, don’t hold on to the broken glass from the fight with your lover. Don’t keep the painting of the angry faces cursing at each other that one night. Do a deep clean, pull out the vacuum, trash the pissed-off artwork, and wipe the walls. Whatever mental imaging helps, as well as maybe physically saging a room in your house or disposing of an item that holds that tough memory if it no longer serves. And most importantly, don’t forget to make amends, apologise, talk it out, make plans to not repeat. This step alone will go further than anything in your love life.

The Mettle of the Mental Mansion

Ok, so do you have this picture of the mental mansion in your mind? Got the concept enough to take it to the next place?

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So what we can imagine with this housing of our thoughts in this massive mansion that is our mind is this:

We have been doing this all of our life, and depending on where we are in the growing old process we may have dozens, even hundreds of rooms. Maybe more, depending on how much you break it down or conceive of it.

And how we choose those rooms and design them and furnish them is and always has been up to us.

We chose to take up the basketball as a child. We chose to fill the room with trophies and fan gear for our favorite team. We kept the tapes of the lessons in dribbling and layups and teamwork. We kept the audio tracks of the cheering crowds and our family or friends applauding us as we scored the winning point.

Or we chose the job, whether it was in fascination or in fear of not paying the bills, or not following our parents’ wishes. And we live with the rooms of that job, or career. We fashion the rooms every day we go to work and live and experience and learn and remember.

And we choose the partners we date, or marry, or break up with, or divorce. We choose all the rooms involved in those decisions. All the fun times and all the drama. All the joy and all the bitterness. We make these rooms and choose these furnishings every day.

And how do we deal with our choices? How do we cope with loss, and fear, and sorrow?

Think about it, you’ve been able to choose in every situation, every day of your life, not just what you do in a moment but how you see it, how you judge it, how you think about it, how you react. And this encodes the room in your mind, infuses the event with energy.

Did you choose a positive, beneficial spin to the situation or event? Or did you choose a harmful, negative way of experiencing or thinking about it?

Did you see the break up as the best or worst thing that ever happened to you? Did it cause years of pain and loneliness or leave room for the new amazing person that came next?

What about the job you got fired from? Was it so terrible? Maybe at first… but did it open the door to a new possibility that was so much better? One that you wouldn’t have had the option of seeing if you had still been employed? Maybe you hated your old job anyway.

Make Your Mansion Magnificent

The bottom line is this:

You are the homeowner of your mind. It’s your mansion. You choose how you build it. You choose the rooms and the decorations and the functional items.

As Abraham Hicks, and countless law of attraction teachers, always say: “You are the creator of your own world.”

This is just my way of presenting it in a metaphorical fashion.

So what do you do with this information?

How have you built your mansion?

Is it time for a renovation?

If you are living a life that feels great, perhaps you’ve built a great mansion! Could it still use attention and cleaning and clearing and tidying and restructuring from time to time, or in certain rooms or areas of your life? Sure. But overall, maybe you’re satisfied. Great. Maybe the majority, well over fifty percent, maybe even eighty or ninety percent of your rooms are in good order for the life you want to live.

But what if you are not living the life you want? What if your life is less than happy or favorable? What if, indeed, you feel like you are living in your own private hell? Maybe you are at thirty or forty percent negative in the content of your mental rooms. Or worse, it’s the majority, you’re over fifty, even heading to the higher digit percentages of negative rooms. Then you must surely be suffering.

Does it empower you to know that you made choices to get there? Not to blame yourself, please don’t do that for that only contributes to a room you may have built for blame. No. But now you can realize that you can change it. That you can make new choices and refashion your rooms and your mansion.

How? This is always the big question. How do I apply this theory, this idea, this new knowledge?

By starting the renovation process.

How does someone renovate a house? If you’ve ever done this, or at least watched a reality show on it, you’ll know that the first stage is always demolition.

Destructions gets a bad rap. But it is also a way of getting rid of old, tired, things that aren’t working well anymore. If you have rooms in your mind that are struggling, break them down, tear open the walls, redo the pipes (or at least flush them out)!

This may mean stop doing an old routine, cutting off a negative contact in your life, getting rid of old stuff. Maybe more drastic changes could be in store like moving to a new place, a new city, a new job. It doesn’t have to be these. Often more power and possibility is found simply in restructuring the ways in which you think.

Find some inspirational things to read, or new mentors and teachers. Focus on new thoughts. Affirmations and visualizations of the life you want can be great. Again, Abraham Hicks comes to mind as a teacher of law of attraction and finding joy. Other inspirational people that many love include Louse L. Hay, Elkhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill, and Dr. Wayne Dyer. I list these as options, not that I have studied all of them in depth, but because they are well-appreciated for their helpful teachings. I have found ones that work for me, and you need to find those who resonate with you.

Seek out people who can assist. But also seek yourself, first. Follow your own heart, your soul’s calling, your own bliss. Do things that lift you up. Listen to calming music. Watch funny shows and comedians. Do what’s fun, makes you laugh, gives you joy. Dance, sing, and play more. The more you do these things, the more easily you will be in a place to rebuild your mansion.

For those of you who are far down the rabbit hole in that “hellish mansion,” it might take some serious effort and dedication to change. But the efforts will be well worth it when you come out on the other side feeling better, living better, being happy. But there may be some work ahead, some serious changes.

Maybe some of those drastic changes I suggested in home, work, and relationship MAY be in order for such growth to occur. Do not fear these changes. Know they are for YOUR highest good. For when you feel better, you will be in a better place to live your best life. And doing this will benefit the world far better than you being in your misery. It will even benefit those people and places you may have had to release in your demolition process.

Please have faith and trust that this process can work for you. I did it myself. I lived in a mental hell of my own design for many years. I began to doubt that there was any way out. In that way I even became complacent, even comfortable there. But not happy.

But then a doorway opened. And while at first I was scared to walk through, I gathered my courage to do so. I left my first marriage, and I formed new bonds of love and appreciation. And I studied so many uplifting messages in books and online and In conversation. And most of all I dedicated myself every day to show up, see what’s not working, release it, change it, and make room to build the new.

I have gone from chronically depressed to almost, mostly happy. See that? I am not fully done renovating even. I am still in process. But I can attest that it IS working. My life IS getting better. And my mansion IS changing. The rooms actually look quite different now. And some of the old rooms, the sad ones, the scared ones, that had become so comfortable… well I don’t even remember what they look like now. And if you want to know how long this took… well, it’s been a year and a half since I walked through that door. But the changes were incremental. I felt them along the way. Certainly at this point, though, the shift is dramatic and noticeable. And I am happily remarried to the woman of my dreams, following my biggest aspirations in life, and living every day in joy, always expecting that the best is on its way to me.

I wouldn’t be here writing this if I had not done the work.

And you can do it, too!

Please know that you can make your mansion wonderful and beautiful and uplifting and free. You can be happy and loving and peaceful and at ease.

You can build your own haven. You can find your own heaven. You can create your own personal paradise.

And if you need any help in sorting it out and getting there, please feel free to contact me! I can be one of those resources you seek to renovate your mental mansion. I can assist in any way I am able, and where I cannot do so, I can point you in a direction or to a resource that may be of benefit to you.

 

So comment to this post or use my contact form on the top menu of my website to email me. And please share this to any you feel may benefit from this process of mental renovation as well.

 

Thank you for reading.

Many blessings and my best wishes to all,

Matthew